memory, kvcache : Takes process memory,compared to server-memory-quota

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What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #34613

Problem Summary:

What is changed and how it works?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
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Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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cherry pick to release-5.3 in PR #34692

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cherry pick to release-5.4 in PR #34693

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cherry pick to release-6.0 in PR #34694

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TiDB MergeCI notify

✅ Well Done! New fixed [1] after this pr merged.

CI Name	Result	Duration	Compare with Parent commit
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-common-test	✅ all 11 tests passed	16 min	Fixed
idc-jenkins-ci/integration-cdc-test	🟢 all 34 tests passed	28 min	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/tics-test	🟢 all 1 tests passed	12 min	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/mybatis-test	🟢 all 1 tests passed	8 min 11 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-ddl-test	🟢 all 6 tests passed	8 min 1 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/sqllogic-test-2	🟢 all 28 tests passed	7 min 44 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/sqllogic-test-1	🟢 all 26 tests passed	7 min 41 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/common-test	🟢 all 12 tests passed	7 min 34 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/integration-compatibility-test	🟢 all 1 tests passed	5 min 30 sec	Existing passed
idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/plugin-test	🟢 build success, plugin test success	4min	Existing passed