util: Resolve RuntimeStatsColl potential unlock mutex (#55118)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #55118

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #55042

Problem Summary:

What changed and how does it work?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No need to test

  • I checked and no code files have been changed.
    Just a mutex lock changes, using defer to protect it.

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

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Fix the issue that queries may get stuck when they are being killed due to exceeding tidb_mem_quota_query.

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[windtalker]

LGTM

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Timeline:

• 2024-08-26 06:02:08.99683683 +0000 UTC m=+763724.131286945: ☑️ agreed by windtalker.
• 2024-08-26 06:28:16.217353034 +0000 UTC m=+765291.351803155: ☑️ agreed by guo-shaoge.

[yibin87]

/retest