ttl: reschedule task to other instances when shrinking worker (#57703)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #57703

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #57990

What changed and how does it work?

This PR makes some changes:

1. Flush expired rows not deleted in delWorker before it stops.
2. When stopping a scanWorker, wait for all rows to be deleted before writing its state to task meta.
3. Mark the status of a task back to waiting when its worker stops to ensure it can be obtained by other instances again.
4. When task heartbeating, merge the current statistics and the old one that recovered from the task meta.
5. Add more logs.

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  • I checked and no code files have been changed.

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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